What to Do When You’re Tired of Waiting on God

Encouragement for Women Over 40

If you’re a Christian woman over 40 and you’re tired of waiting on God, you’re not alone.

Waiting on God can feel exhausting especially when your prayers seem unanswered and life isn’t unfolding the way you expected.

You’re doing all the “right” things…
Praying. Trusting. Showing up.

But deep down, you feel weary.

Striving for perfection is not the goal. Abiding in Christ is all that is required.

Stop Pretending to Be Perfect

Let me be clear, you can stop pretending to be the perfect Christian woman over 40 with me.

At this stage of life, you’ve likely gotten really good at presenting yourself as someone who:

Loves Jesus
Attends church
Volunteers faithfully
Shows up for everyone else

You’re a wonderful friend, mother, sister, wife, employee or maybe even a CEO.

But you’re tired.

You’re tired of trying to hold your life and the lives of those you love together with spiritual duct tape and worship music.

You’ve prayed. You’ve asked. You’ve cried out to God…

And

It feels like He’s taking His time.

In the waiting, you’re becoming weary.

And that’s okay.

You don’t have to pretend to be patient.

You’re allowed to be honest about how you feel.

💙If you’ve been stuck in striving instead of resting in your faith, I shared more
about this in my post on how to stop striving and start abiding in Christ.

Be Honest with God About Your Emotions

One of the greatest examples of emotional honesty in the Bible comes from King David.

He was both a warrior and a worshiper, yet he still experienced deep exhaustion and impatience.

In Psalm 13, he cries out:

“How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever?”

Can you hear the desperation in his voice?
Can you feel the weight of his waiting?

David didn’t filter his emotions. He brought them fully to God.

And then he ends with this:

“But I have trusted in your faithful love;
my heart will rejoice in your deliverance.” (Psalm 13:5 CSB)

That’s the tension we live in as Christian women:
Honest emotion + anchored trust.

Why Waiting on God Feels So Hard in Midlife

Scholars believe David wrote Psalm 13 during a season of deep personal pain.

And here’s what I love…

The Bible doesn’t hide that.

It shows us:

We will have hard seasons
We will feel weary
We will wrestle with waiting

As women over 40, this season of life can feel especially heavy.

We’re navigating:

Identity shifts
Changing family roles
Physical changes (hello, menopause)
Questions about purpose and relevance

You might find yourself wondering:

Am I still relevant?
Am I too old to step into something new?
What is my role now?
Why does my body feel unfamiliar?

Remember You’re Not Alone

Just like King David, you can call on God in your weariness.

He is present even in the waiting and He is already at work on your behalf.

Anchor Your Faith by Abiding, Not Striving

Galatians 5:22 reminds us that patience is a fruit of the Spirit.

That means:

Patience isn’t something we force…
It grows when we abide in Christ.

But what does patience look like?

First, patience feels easy when life is light:

Playing with grandchildren
Enjoying a hobby
Relaxing with a good book

But real, Spirit-led patience?

It shows up when your natural patience is stretched:

Heavy traffic
Long lines
Difficult people
Interruptions
Delays
Waiting on God

That’s where growth happens.

Abiding in Christ, staying connected to Him, is what nurtures patience in those moments.

If you’re not sure what that looks like in everyday life, I walk through it step-by-step in my complete guide to the Fruit of the Spirit for Christian women.